TOP TEN TIPS TO ENJOYING A GODLY SINGLENESS
(in no particular order)
Part 1 of 2:
1. Stay busy! You won't have time to sit and mope about how lonely you are if you stay active and put your time to doing something useful and positive. Learn to see this time of singleness as a blessing, not as a curse or a trial to be endured.
2. Try something new: People who are married and have families need to devote a lot of time to them. Despite your homework or work schedule, at this time in your life you are blessed with a lot more free time to do things outside of the home than you will ever have again. Enjoy it! Take on a new hobby, join a good cause, go on a short term mission...
3. Be spontaneous: Along with extra time comes the time to do more things on the spur of the moment. Yours is the only schedule to plan around. Go out with a friend at amoment's notice, stay up all night in a coffee shop (it's good practice - you'll end up pulling all nighters later in life once the baby comes, anyhow), hop in a car and drive to the next province or state with your buddies... Schedules and plans, once you are married, will have to made by two and often well in advance. The degree of potential spontaneity you have now is temporary. Treasure it!
4. Stop hanging out with only the married: You all used to hang out together when you were single, then one by one your ‘gang' marries, and you are left single. You try to hang out with them, but end up feeling like an odd ball since you're the only one in the group with no hand to hold and nothing to add to the discussions that too often circle around ‘couple issues'... It's your train to misery unless you switch tracks! Don't abandon your married friends all together - you may be among them some day; but be sure to balance your life with like-minded single friends.
5. Join a group for single Christian adults: If your church doesn't have one, find a church that does, or start one. Keeping your social life active will keep you from taking a self-pity trip to 'No-Spouse Bluesville'. While a young adult group may in fact become your ticket to ending your singleness, don't let this become your priority. Start enjoying the friendships God has blessed you with, both male and female, and seek out ways that you can be a blessing and encouragement to them as brothers and sisters in Christ.
CONCLUSION: Enjoy this time God has blessed you with; statistically speaking, if you are like most people, it will not last forever.
(in no particular order)
Part 1 of 2:
1. Stay busy! You won't have time to sit and mope about how lonely you are if you stay active and put your time to doing something useful and positive. Learn to see this time of singleness as a blessing, not as a curse or a trial to be endured.
2. Try something new: People who are married and have families need to devote a lot of time to them. Despite your homework or work schedule, at this time in your life you are blessed with a lot more free time to do things outside of the home than you will ever have again. Enjoy it! Take on a new hobby, join a good cause, go on a short term mission...
3. Be spontaneous: Along with extra time comes the time to do more things on the spur of the moment. Yours is the only schedule to plan around. Go out with a friend at amoment's notice, stay up all night in a coffee shop (it's good practice - you'll end up pulling all nighters later in life once the baby comes, anyhow), hop in a car and drive to the next province or state with your buddies... Schedules and plans, once you are married, will have to made by two and often well in advance. The degree of potential spontaneity you have now is temporary. Treasure it!
4. Stop hanging out with only the married: You all used to hang out together when you were single, then one by one your ‘gang' marries, and you are left single. You try to hang out with them, but end up feeling like an odd ball since you're the only one in the group with no hand to hold and nothing to add to the discussions that too often circle around ‘couple issues'... It's your train to misery unless you switch tracks! Don't abandon your married friends all together - you may be among them some day; but be sure to balance your life with like-minded single friends.
5. Join a group for single Christian adults: If your church doesn't have one, find a church that does, or start one. Keeping your social life active will keep you from taking a self-pity trip to 'No-Spouse Bluesville'. While a young adult group may in fact become your ticket to ending your singleness, don't let this become your priority. Start enjoying the friendships God has blessed you with, both male and female, and seek out ways that you can be a blessing and encouragement to them as brothers and sisters in Christ.
CONCLUSION: Enjoy this time God has blessed you with; statistically speaking, if you are like most people, it will not last forever.
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