Monday, 15 August 2016

12 signals our body sends to tell us we are too stressed

https://brightside.me/inspiration-health/12-signals-our-body-sends-to-tell-us-we-are-too-stressed-215805/

Our body is an incredibly complex machine that reacts not only to external changes but to internal ones too. Dr. Susan Babel, a psychologist who specializes in depression, suggested quite an interesting theory about our body signals.
 
Bright Side would like to share some illustrations that demonstrate Babel’s theory, as well as simple recommendations on how to cope with emotional problems.


The psychologist considers discomfort and pain to be the signals of anxiety: secret fears, unresolved issues. Chronic pain is a symptom of stress and emotional problems, especially when there are no physical injuries.

Head



Too much stress is the main cause of any headache. It can happen because of worries about possible failures, little things, or constant rushing.
 


Set aside some time for yourself every day. Let yourself relax, and don’t worry about anything for some time. Just take some rest, and don’t feel guilty about this. Your productivity will only be boosted thanks to this time spent in peace and quiet. And you won’t be suffering from headaches anymore.

Neck



Pain in the neck signifies the burden of resentment towards other people and dissatisfaction with our own imperfections. Our neck hurts when we can’t forgive someone or ourselves.
 


Change your attitude towards yourself and others. People don’t want to hurt you most of the time. And you don’t have to meet your own strict expectations. Take it easy, and learn to forgive. It’s also important to think more about the things you love.

Shoulders



Shoulder pain is caused by emotional burdens and constant pressure. Maybe someone really puts pressure on you. Or maybe you can’t make an important decision and start carrying this heavy burden.
 


Try to share the load with a close friend — you’ll feel relieved. Even if you just talk through your worries, you won’t have to cope with the difficulties only by yourself. And maybe this will help to find a simple solution to your problem.

Upper Back



A lack of emotional support and close people around us can manifest itself in upper back pain. This happens when we subconsciously feel unloved and unappreciated.
 


Communicate more with different people. Don’t focus on yourself — be open and friendly. Meet new people, go on dates. And most importantly, don’t hold back feelings of affection.

Lower Back



If we have any financial worries, our lower back may hurt. Maybe we’re secretly obsessed with the idea of living a rich life, or maybe the people around us make us worry about money all the time.
 


Money can’t buy us happiness. It may sound like a cliché, but it’s the truth. Therefore, just stop worrying! The best things in life are free. Do what you love, and this will bring you not only joy but the profit as well.

Elbows



Elbow pain signifies a lack of flexibility and an unwillingness to compromise. We probably resist some important changes that may occur in our lives, or we’re subconsciously afraid of something new.
 


Sometimes we may think that life is too tough and complicated. But it only feels like this. Maybe we just make things look complicated. Be flexible, and don’t spend your energy on fighting things you’re not able to affect.

Hands



Pain in the hands means someone really needs a friend, to have some rest, and to just have a conversation with good people. If your hands hurt, it’s better for you to come out of your shell.
 


Try to make some new friends. Go to lunch with your work associates. Buy tickets for a sports event or go to a concert. Try to feel that you’re part of the crowd. Don’t hesitate to talk to new people because you never know where you can find a good friend.

Hips



People who are used to comfort and love living a predictable life may suffer from pain in the hips. Fear of change and making big decisions and an unwillingness to bring something new into life are the causes of hip pain.
 


Don’t resist the natural course of life. Life’s moving. It changes, and, therefore, life’s interesting. Think of all life changes as exciting adventures. And don’t put off any important decisions.

Knees



A big ego is probably the cause of knee pain. Our knees may hurt when we think about ourselves too much and don’t care about others at all. And also when we’re absolutely sure the world revolves only around us.
 


Take a look around — you’re not the only person in the Universe. Be attentive to others. Listen to your friend, help your mother, cover for your coworker. Help people more often. You can also spend some time volunteering.

Calves



Calf pain is a sign of emotional tension. Possessiveness, constant worries about a relationship, and crazy jealousy are other causes.
 


It’s important to learn to trust your other half. Relax and stop controlling your partner. It may be time to leave anything that bothers you too much or drives you crazy behind you.

Ankles



Pain in the ankles may mean that we forget about ourselves and need more pleasure in our life. Maybe our work takes all our time, or we don’t take our needs seriously enough and always put our dreams on hold.
 


It’s time to pamper yourself. Buy that expensive thing, have a good sleep, try those tasty goodies. Forget about your work for some time, and think about a romantic relationship, for example. Or plan a dream trip.

Feet



Apathy can be a cause of foot pain. It’s like our body refuses to move forward. It’s like we’re afraid of life and don’t see the point of moving forward. When we subconsciously think that everything goes wrong and our whole life is a big failure, our feet hurt.
 


Learn to pay attention to the little joys of life. Look how beautiful the world and the people in it are! Enjoy different tastes, sounds, the wind, and the sun. Adopt a fluffy pet, or try a new hobby. Fill your life with interesting things. Forget all the bad memories, and smile more. Find something that brings you happiness every day!

The conclusion



The conclusion is simple: love yourself and forgive yourself. Be thoughtful of others, and try not to hold a grudge against other people. Communicate more, smile (because a smile looks so good on you!), and stay healthy!
 
 
 
 

Wednesday, 10 August 2016

My First Full Marathon Experience

When SCKLM opened for registration, I was contemplating whether to register for FM or 10km, as I've ran HM twice. My aim was to collect medals from all categories. When I found out that the cut off time for FM was 7 hours, I decided to give it a try & that was one of the craziest thing I've ever done...

Usually I can sleep early especially when I was tired but I couldn't sleep the night before. I went to bed at 18:40 but I think I slept at 22:++, that also, was not deep sleep. I think I was nervous & excited as it's gonna be my VFM. I don't remember having sleeping problem for Newton 30km two weeks ago, which was also my first attempt.

Having rested for about 3 hours, I got myself ready for the run. My net time should be about 4 minutes later from the gun time. Up to KM 8-9, I was able to keep up with Pacer for 06:30 hours. This was something new & I think I shouldn't have done that cuz that's much faster than my normal pace, I should have kept with my own pace, maybe I'll do better. I was able to stay in between Pacer 06:30 hours & 07:00 hours up to KM 27-28.

The crucial checkpoint was at KM 31 & I managed to reach about 8 mins before they close that checkpoint. This was when everything started to slow down 😔

The weather was scorching hot & we passed by Bukit Tunku which was quite a hilly route & although I tried to pick up when we were going downhill, I was few minutes late & therefore I was categorised as DNF.

I didn't manage to complete my VFM & will try better the next round. 37km was not easy either so I'm still proud of myself :) I didn't choose to give up but was forced to give up, & I believed that I would be able to complete the race within the cut off time, albeit a close call.

I still get the Medal & Finisher T; had I completed the race this would be my 28th medal (28 is my birthday date :) )

The Medal & Finisher T would serve as a reminder that I've come thus far in my journey as a runner (Did I just call myself a runner? 😶). I guess it took me a lot of courage to register & appear on race day & try my best to complete the course.

Ganbatte! Hope the next round I post on FM, I'll be able to officially declare that I'm a marathoner:D 
 
Runners don't give up~~
 
 
Me with the medal :)


With Wendy who came to support us & Zihao who had completed his VFM :)
 
 
 

Questions to Ask When Preparing for Marriage

 
Article by John Piper
Founder & Teacher, desiringGod.org


In each of these sections one item could be added that I have not listed, namely, How do you handle and live with differences? How do you decide what can remain differences without jeopardizing the relationship? So as you deal with each subheading, include that in the discussion. 

Theology 

 

  • What do you believe about . . . everything?
  • Discover how you form your views. What is the reasoning-believing process? How do you handle the Bible? 
 

Worship and Devotion 

 

  • How important is corporate worship? Other participation in church life?
  • How important is it to be part of a small accountability/support group?
  • What is the importance of music in life and worship?
  • What are your daily personal devotional practices? (Prayer, reading, meditation, memorization)
  • What would our family devotions look like? Who leads out in this?
  • Are we doing this now in an appropriate way: praying together about our lives and future, reading the Bible together?
 

Husband and Wife

 
  • What is the meaning of headship and submission in the Bible and in our marriage?
  • What are expectations about situations where one of us might be alone with someone of the opposite sex?
  • How are tasks shared in the home: cleaning, cooking, washing dishes, yard work, car upkeep, repairs, shopping for food, and household stuff?
  • What are the expectations for togetherness?
  • What is an ideal non-special evening?
  • How do you understand who initiates sex and how often?
  • Who does the checkbook — or are there two?
 

Children

 
  • Should we have children? If so, when? Why?
  • How many?
  • How far apart?
  • Would we consider adoption?
  • What are the standards of behavior?
  • What are the appropriate ways to discipline them? How many strikes before they’re . . . whatever?
  • What are the expectations of time spent with them and when they go to bed?
  • What signs of affection will you show them?
  • What about school? Home school? Christian school? Public school?
 

Lifestyle

 
  • Own a home or not? Why?
  • What kind of neighborhood? Why?
  • How many cars? New? Used?
  • View of money in general. How much to the church?
  • How do you make money decisions?
  • Where will you buy clothes: Department store? Thrift store? In between? Why?
 

Entertainment

 
  • How much money should we spend on entertainment?
  • How often should we eat out? Where?
  • What kind of vacations are appropriate and helpful for us?
  • How many toys? Snowmobile, boat, cabin?
  • Should we have a television? Where? What is fitting to watch? How much?
  • What are the criteria for movies and theater? What will our guidelines be for the kids?
 

Conflict

 
  • What makes you angry?
  • How do you handle your frustration or anger?
  • Who should bring up an issue that is bothersome?
  • What if we disagree both about what should be done and whether it is serious?
  • Will we go to bed angry at each other?
  • What is our view of getting help from friends or counselors?
 

Work

 
  • Who is the main breadwinner?
  • Should the wife work outside the home? Before kids? With kids at home? After kids?
  • What are your views of daycare for children?
  • What determines where we will locate? Job? Whose job? Church? Family?
 

Friends

 
  • Is it good to do things with friends but without spouse?
  • What will we do if one of us really likes to hang out with so and so and the other doesn’t?
 

Health and Sickness

 
  • Do you have, or have you had any, sicknesses or physical problems that could affect our relationship? (Allergies, cancer, eating disorders, venereal disease, etc.)
  • Do you believe in divine healing, and how would prayer relate to medical attention?
  • How do you think about exercise and healthy eating?
  • Do you have any habits that adversely affect health?