Cautious

I have always been quite "open" and tend to tell people about myself. At times I would feel that I am immature, because I hold nothing back from others. Hm, call me naive? call me straight? call me honest? My mom has always been advising me to keep things to myself so that I would not expose myself to vulnerability.

A friend once told me that he likes to keep mum about a lot of things. He said that this is a step taken to protect himself. Therefore, a lot of times he would not give a direct answer to everything.

Another friend said that I am "scary" because I asked "personal" questions at the very initial stage of friendship. Hm, I thought I was just being friendly *confused*.

I remember few years ago my friend advised me to be more reserved instead of being too open. She is a good friend of mine and when I moved on to another company she advised me not tell people everything about myself.

 To a certain extent, I am "open" about myself and I do not draw a line with new acquaintances. I would answer their questions without thinking much into it. I would not also be suspicious about the new friends that I make with. In short, I just had one conclusion on my mind ~ all people are good, therefore we do not need to be cautious.

Is that true? There are a lot of people in this world and each person carries different personality. Some people are naive, some are straightforward, some are tricky, some are funny, some are serious, some are humorous, some are secretive, some are easy-going, some are laid back, some are stubborn et cetera.

Do we need to be cautious with everyone whom we meet? I just thought, let's be ourselves. If I am naive, straightforward and warm, what should stop me from being so? Am I considered as immature if I have the tendency to "blah" about everything to everyone I meet?

Of course, I do not tell everyone about everything, and I do choose what type of information I am willing to share out. If we feel comfortable sharing, then just share it out and vice versa. At work, sometimes I would go to my colleague's room and talk talk talk. Well, that is my way to de-stress, am not sure about her, but would I be considered as immature by doing so? Hm, inconsiderate perhaps, as I was "disturbing" her with her work.

Anyhow, I do hope that I would control my tongue and be more cautious because we never know who is our friend, and who is our enemy. It would be good to be neutral and indifferent about everything, so that we are not being harmed, and we are not harming anyone as well.