While the Song of Solomon illustrates the depth of love Jesus Christ has for the Church and the strength of love we should have for Him, it also demonstrates the passionate love we should experience for the special someone God has given us. Here are 20 Enlightening Relationship Lessons you should know...
Affection is Valuable
King Solomon and the Shulamite girl are expressive and affectionate toward one another. Affection is a physical manifestation of love and is helpful to strengthen the relationship bond.
Complement Each Other
Sometimes we think a kind word toward our significant other, but we should say it. Especially if words of affirmation is a part of his or her love language.
Timing is Everything
Constantly the Shulamite warns the Daughters of Jerusalem not to stir up or awaken love before the proper time. Godly love is always protected in the confines of God’s timing.
Give Gifts
Gift-giving says so much! It reminds your dear one that you were thinking of them even in their absence.
Be a Team
The young couple in the Song of Solomon dealt with conflict as a team. When life brings challenges don’t work independently. Get together and tackle it as one.
Notice the Small Things
One thing about this loving couple is that they paid attention to detail. They appreciated the unique, Godly details that made them distinct.
Mutual Admiration
Spend your marriage honouring one another. Create a culture of honour in your marriage and it will have endless effects on generations to come.
God is Our Love Model
Through this eight chapter song, we learn the passion and pattern of God’s love for us, demonstrated in the act of our Saviour Jesus Christ.
We Don't Have All the Answer
Even though we lack the answers to every question in our relationships, we are to remain loyal in love. This is a love story that also illustrates a faith journey as well.
Wealth & Materialism are Not Love
Love is not a position in life, it is a perpetual life-long cycle. The Shulamite reminds the reader that love is a mindset when she says, “He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me is love.”
Love is Beyond Physical Attraction
Cultivate your inner life. Focusing on your spiritual maturity in Christ is more beneficial than your outer appearance. This is one of the best kept beauty secrets.
Healthy Possession
These lovers show us that there’s a healthy possessiveness we should have for the one God has given us. This strengthens the bond and creates a beautiful safe-haven in married love.
Love Endures All Things
Love has its ups and downs. There are different seasons that bring about blessing and testing. In the end we should grow deeper in the things of God and steadfast love for each other.
Send Love Notes
Pick up a pen and paper and communicate your love using the written word.
Marital Romance Pleases God
Romance in marriage pleases God. If you are blessed to have a spouse, don’t hold back romantically enjoy the goodness of God.
Avoid Competition & Jealousy
Celebrate each other! Competing, comparing and being jealous quench the loving passion that we should have in our relationship. Love does not envy.
Fight Fear with Faith
Fear and insecurity can cause erosion in any relationship. Fight this with faith in God and the relationship He’s allowed you to have.
Protect Your Love
Guard and protect your relationship from the “little foxes, that spoil the vines.” Create proper boundaries to enforce the integrity of your relationship.
Reconcile Quickly
Don’t let the sun go down on your anger. Listen and respect each other’s concerns, but then reconcile somewhere in the middle so that everyone’s happy. You may have to sacrifice more sometimes but it’s worth it.
Think Lovingly of Each Other
Train your thoughts to be loving and kind. This will also impact how you talk and behave in the relationship. Love thoughts will help you bear good fruit for all seasons.
