Trust is Earned, Not Given
by Alice Weng Yin Chan on Sunday, 13 March 2011 at 22:21
Hands up those who agree with this :) Hm, I cannot remember when I got to know about this quote, I believe I learnt it back in high school. So, if this is such a common quote, what is so special about it?
Few months back I was approached by a friend asking me to help her on her event. This is a big event. I was thinking whether I should give it a shot. After due consideration, I thought, why not?
She told me this: she needs someone whom she could TRUST to assist her on the preparation, and I felt honoured because she TRUSTed me to handle the event for her. Of course, I had my doubts whether I could take up such a heavy responsibility, but I TRUST that God would help me through.
TRUST, with just five [5] letters, it carries a great extent of significance.
I have a lot of friends, but there are only a few whom I know I can trust and can share my feelings with. I know I always tend to talk a lot of things to a lot of people, but of course, I have my own secret too :p
Who do I share those secrets with? God is my number one priority. However, we are human, and sometimes we need to talk to someone whom we can TRUST. I would say my mom knows most of my stuffs (well, not all :p) and a sister of mine would know majority of my stuffs too :)
Why would I want to share with them? That is because I TRUST them.
How do I know that I can TRUST them? Or, should I say, how did they EARN my TRUST?
I believe that not much explanation need to be made on God and parents :)
Communication is the first step, I think; through communication we get to know each other more, and the deeper we know each other, the more willing we are to share about ourselves to others. I am not trying to say that the more we chat, TRUST will be built automatically; we also need time to build up the relationship.
Therefore, time is the second element. In order to build a relationship, we need time and effort. When I first came to this Church, I was not close with the brothers and sisters. As for now, I am close with most of them, and am getting closer with them. Surely it feels good to be part of the group, and more importantly is I know I could rely on them, and TRUST them as they are now my good friends :) The relationship was not built automatically as most of us are introverts, plus I am shy myself. I thank God to have known them :)
Perhaps compatibility is another element to consider. I might have known a friend for many years and we might be close, but that does not mean that I would share my deepest secret with him or her. Agree? Somehow there must be some chemistry between us in order to build that TRUST.
Also, mutual understanding and instinct play a crucial role as well. You know, sometimes we just know what each other is thinking without much words being communicated :) This would link to compatibility as well.
TRUST is not something to be given freely. We need time to build up the relationship through constant communication with actions to back up that we can be TRUSTed.
Throughout these years, I thank God that He had given me precious friends whom I know I could TRUST from the day I was borned to now.
I hope I could be a friend to my friends, and the I could earn their TRUST on me in times of need.
To my friends, and you know who you are, a big THANK YOU for giving me the opportunity to be your friend, and I am honoured to have gained your TRUST =)
Not to be forgotten, RESPECT is earned too :)
BOTH mutual trust and mutual respect are crucial in any relationship :)
· · Share · DeleteFew months back I was approached by a friend asking me to help her on her event. This is a big event. I was thinking whether I should give it a shot. After due consideration, I thought, why not?
She told me this: she needs someone whom she could TRUST to assist her on the preparation, and I felt honoured because she TRUSTed me to handle the event for her. Of course, I had my doubts whether I could take up such a heavy responsibility, but I TRUST that God would help me through.
TRUST, with just five [5] letters, it carries a great extent of significance.
I have a lot of friends, but there are only a few whom I know I can trust and can share my feelings with. I know I always tend to talk a lot of things to a lot of people, but of course, I have my own secret too :p
Who do I share those secrets with? God is my number one priority. However, we are human, and sometimes we need to talk to someone whom we can TRUST. I would say my mom knows most of my stuffs (well, not all :p) and a sister of mine would know majority of my stuffs too :)
Why would I want to share with them? That is because I TRUST them.
How do I know that I can TRUST them? Or, should I say, how did they EARN my TRUST?
I believe that not much explanation need to be made on God and parents :)
Communication is the first step, I think; through communication we get to know each other more, and the deeper we know each other, the more willing we are to share about ourselves to others. I am not trying to say that the more we chat, TRUST will be built automatically; we also need time to build up the relationship.
Therefore, time is the second element. In order to build a relationship, we need time and effort. When I first came to this Church, I was not close with the brothers and sisters. As for now, I am close with most of them, and am getting closer with them. Surely it feels good to be part of the group, and more importantly is I know I could rely on them, and TRUST them as they are now my good friends :) The relationship was not built automatically as most of us are introverts, plus I am shy myself. I thank God to have known them :)
Perhaps compatibility is another element to consider. I might have known a friend for many years and we might be close, but that does not mean that I would share my deepest secret with him or her. Agree? Somehow there must be some chemistry between us in order to build that TRUST.
Also, mutual understanding and instinct play a crucial role as well. You know, sometimes we just know what each other is thinking without much words being communicated :) This would link to compatibility as well.
TRUST is not something to be given freely. We need time to build up the relationship through constant communication with actions to back up that we can be TRUSTed.
Throughout these years, I thank God that He had given me precious friends whom I know I could TRUST from the day I was borned to now.
I hope I could be a friend to my friends, and the I could earn their TRUST on me in times of need.
To my friends, and you know who you are, a big THANK YOU for giving me the opportunity to be your friend, and I am honoured to have gained your TRUST =)
Not to be forgotten, RESPECT is earned too :)
BOTH mutual trust and mutual respect are crucial in any relationship :)
