feat. Rock City & Adam Levine
If I got locked away
And we lost it all today
Tell me honestly, would you still love me the same?
If I showed you my flaws
If I couldn't be strong
Tell me honestly, would you still love me the same?
Right about now...
If a judge for life me, would you stay by my side?
Or is you gonna say goodbye?
Can you tell me right now?
If I couldn't buy you the fancy things in life
Shawty, would it be alright?
Come on show me that you are down
Now tell me would you really ride for me?
Baby tell me would you die for me?
Would you spend your whole life with me?
Would you be there to always hold me down?
Tell me would you really cry for me?
Baby don't lie to me
If I didn't have anything
I wanna know would you stick around?
If I got locked away
And we lost it all today
Tell me honestly, would you still love me the same?
If I showed you my flaws
If I couldn't be strong
Tell me honestly, would you still love me the same?
Let's get it diddly-dong-dong-dong-dang
All I want is somebody real who don't need much
A girl I know that I can trust
To be here when money low
If I did not have nothing else to give but love
Would that even be enough?
Girl meh need fi know
Now tell me would you really ride for me?
Baby tell me would you die for me?
Would you spend your whole life with me?
Would you be there to always hold me down?
Tell me would you really cry for me?
Baby don't lie to me
If I didn't have anything
I wanna know would you stick around?
If I got locked away
And we lost it all today
Tell me honestly, would you still love me the same?
If I showed you my flaws
If I couldn't be strong
Tell me honestly, would you still love me the same?
Tell me, tell me, would you want me?
Tell me, tell me, would you call me?
If you knew I wasn't balling
'Cause I need a girl who's always by my side
Tell me, tell me, do you need me?
Tell me, tell me, do you love me?
Or is you just tryna play me?
'Cause I need a girl to hold me down for life
If I got locked away
And we lost it all today
Tell me honestly would you still love me the same?
If I showed you my flaws
If I couldn't be strong
Tell me honestly would you still love me the same?
If I got locked away
And we lost it all today
Tell me honestly would you still love me the same?
If I showed you my flaws
If I couldn't be strong
Tell me honestly would you still love me the same?
Would you still love me the same?
Would you still love me the same?
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Alice is my name. Wonderland was my nickname. In this place which I named "Wonderland" is where I will share out my thoughts, stories and feelings. Welcome to Alice's Wonderland...
Wednesday, 23 March 2016
Monday, 14 March 2016
3 relationship habits you think are toxic that are actually healthy
Relationship habits are always under debate, but here are three of them you may think are toxic that are actually healthy for you. With the help of Mark Manson, we’ve nailed down five healthy habits that you may have been told were toxic – or may have just thought were toxic. Here we go:
1) “Letting some conflicts go unresolved.”
We know that you’ve always heard that you should never go to bed angry, but sometimes you just have to. “The idea that couples must communicate and resolve all their problems is a myth.” Manson attributes this knowledge to the wealth of research done by Jon Gottman, with the Gottman Institute. “In his research of thousands of happily married couples, some of whom have been married for 40 years, he found time and again that most successful couples have persistent unresolved issues, unresolved issues that they’ve sometimes been fighting about for decades.” At the end of the day, you’re in a relationship with another human. This other person has thoughts, emotions and ideas that you may not agree with. In fact, you may never agree with some of them. It is vital to the success of your relationship that you let those things go. One idea, one argument, one opinion does not have to destroy a relationship. Don’t let it. Let some conflicts go unresolved and you will find much more happiness in the long term.
2) “Being willing to hurt each other’s feelings.”
“When our highest priority is to always make ourselves feel good, or to always make our partner feel good, then nobody ends up feeling good.” When you are in a relationship, an honest relationship, you must be willing to risk a few feelings for honesty. Your relationship is about trusting and supporting one another, and you need to be able to verbalize your actual feelings and emotions without fearing that you will hurt your partner or you may wind up losing the sense of reality in your relationship. “These (honest) conversations are paramount to maintaining a healthy relationship that meets both people’s needs.” After all, if you lie today about how something doesn’t bother you – it will be even worse when you bring it up later and say it actually does bother you. Be honest from the get-go.
3) “Spending time apart.”
It is important to spend time with your partner, but it is also important to spend time away from them. When you are cultivating a healthy relationship, you need to recognize when it is time to find a little bit of space and reclaim your identity. “The problem with allowing your identity to be consumed by a romantic relationship is that as you change to be closer to the person you love, you cease to be the person they fell in love with in the first place.” It is important to the continued success of your relationship and for your own happiness that you remain yourself and find space when you need it. “It’s important to occasionally get some distance from your partner, assert your independence, maintain some hobbies or interests that are just yours. Have some separate friends.” When you have this space, you allow your relationship to breathe. You don’t want to crush your relationship under the pressure of spending every waking moment together, and so this space is vital to the success. It also allows you more interesting topics to discuss, and you get to share your world with your partner when you tell them about your day. It keeps intact the surprise aspect of the relationship that you may have once thought was gone.
http://ziglarvault.com/3-relationship-habits-you-think-are-toxic-that-are-actually-healthy/
Friday, 19 February 2016
From a Gynaecologist to a full time housewife..
https://drumablog.wordpress.com/2016/02/17/from-a-gynaecologist-to-a-full-time-housewife/
Nothing prepared me for this! And i mean, nothing!… I am an adrenaline junkie kinda gynaecologist, working in the third busiest hospital in the country. And guess what? I love it! My typical day starts with morning briefing at 8 am, then rounds in the wards and Labour room. In between rounds, we have bleeding cases, babies stuck during delivery, instrumental deliveries, bad perineal tears, critical cases in red zone.. u name it! I even have to run up to the operating theatre if there was a difficult case. And I could handle it all. We have a great team in my hospital. It is extremely tiring, but we work to save lives and only that matters. Then, I got pregnant. We were very happy, my husband and I. We were after all planning this for some time. I had a rather smooth pregnancy. I was still very active at work. I was still doing my duties as usual, and was on call till 36 weeks. Being the only specialist on call in this hospital was not easy, but I did it. Imagine handling all of the above single-handedly. I even managed to organize a departmental bowling tournament and an overnight treasure hunt trip to Port Dickson at term. Along the way, i decided to take a 6 months long maternity leave to be with the baby. I thought I would also need a break after working for so long and suffering through my first pregnancy during my postgraduate studies.
Zara was delivered via elective caesarean section. She was the most beautiful thing i ever laid my eyes on. Day 1 of caesarean section was difficult. I experienced a lot of pain at the scar site despite analgesia. I was discharged the next day. At home, i was struggling postpartum as my mum was away and my sisters were afar. My husband was my only help, trying his best to settle down and take care of the elder one. I was struggling with breastfeeding and Zara was frustrated and crying all the time. I thought i knew it all, being a gynaecologist and going through some 20 hours of breastfeeding course. Boy, I was wrong. Theoretical and practical knowledge were 2 different entities. When i brought Zara back for checkup after a day, she had severe jaundice requiring double phototherapy. I was crushed. I thought i did all the right things. I wasn’t producing much milk and that made matters worse. Still, i kept pumping and gave Zara every drop of breastmilk I had. I was reading and trying everything I could to boost milk supply but nothing worked. I kept on pumping and started Domperidone to help with my milk supply.
Zara thankfully recovered from her severe jaundice, thanks to the dedicated team of nurses at UMSC Wad Dahlia. We were back home, but this was just the beginning. I had to deal with my elder son, take care of a newborn and manage the household chores, with a caesarean scar. Oh, did I mention I had no domestic helper? The amount of work and the toll it took on me was absolutely unexpected. I was struggling with milk supply and a newborn who just latched the whole night. For me, this was so much harder than my 36 hour calls with 5 emergencies in a row! I could handle that, but this was way tougher. And yes, i wasn’t prepared.
How could anyone be a full time housewife/stay at home mum? I realized that this was not for me. Yes, i could cut open a woman, deliver a baby and stitch her up in 20 minutes, but i can’t handle the cleaning, sweeping, laundry, cooking and 2 screaming kids. Its way too much. I wonder, how do you mums do it? And as I near the end of my 6 months maternity leave, I hate to admit it, but I’m smiling, relishing my duties as a gynaecologist and a surgeon. To all stay at home mums, i give u, my standing ovation.
Nothing prepared me for this! And i mean, nothing!… I am an adrenaline junkie kinda gynaecologist, working in the third busiest hospital in the country. And guess what? I love it! My typical day starts with morning briefing at 8 am, then rounds in the wards and Labour room. In between rounds, we have bleeding cases, babies stuck during delivery, instrumental deliveries, bad perineal tears, critical cases in red zone.. u name it! I even have to run up to the operating theatre if there was a difficult case. And I could handle it all. We have a great team in my hospital. It is extremely tiring, but we work to save lives and only that matters. Then, I got pregnant. We were very happy, my husband and I. We were after all planning this for some time. I had a rather smooth pregnancy. I was still very active at work. I was still doing my duties as usual, and was on call till 36 weeks. Being the only specialist on call in this hospital was not easy, but I did it. Imagine handling all of the above single-handedly. I even managed to organize a departmental bowling tournament and an overnight treasure hunt trip to Port Dickson at term. Along the way, i decided to take a 6 months long maternity leave to be with the baby. I thought I would also need a break after working for so long and suffering through my first pregnancy during my postgraduate studies.
Zara was delivered via elective caesarean section. She was the most beautiful thing i ever laid my eyes on. Day 1 of caesarean section was difficult. I experienced a lot of pain at the scar site despite analgesia. I was discharged the next day. At home, i was struggling postpartum as my mum was away and my sisters were afar. My husband was my only help, trying his best to settle down and take care of the elder one. I was struggling with breastfeeding and Zara was frustrated and crying all the time. I thought i knew it all, being a gynaecologist and going through some 20 hours of breastfeeding course. Boy, I was wrong. Theoretical and practical knowledge were 2 different entities. When i brought Zara back for checkup after a day, she had severe jaundice requiring double phototherapy. I was crushed. I thought i did all the right things. I wasn’t producing much milk and that made matters worse. Still, i kept pumping and gave Zara every drop of breastmilk I had. I was reading and trying everything I could to boost milk supply but nothing worked. I kept on pumping and started Domperidone to help with my milk supply.
Zara thankfully recovered from her severe jaundice, thanks to the dedicated team of nurses at UMSC Wad Dahlia. We were back home, but this was just the beginning. I had to deal with my elder son, take care of a newborn and manage the household chores, with a caesarean scar. Oh, did I mention I had no domestic helper? The amount of work and the toll it took on me was absolutely unexpected. I was struggling with milk supply and a newborn who just latched the whole night. For me, this was so much harder than my 36 hour calls with 5 emergencies in a row! I could handle that, but this was way tougher. And yes, i wasn’t prepared.
How could anyone be a full time housewife/stay at home mum? I realized that this was not for me. Yes, i could cut open a woman, deliver a baby and stitch her up in 20 minutes, but i can’t handle the cleaning, sweeping, laundry, cooking and 2 screaming kids. Its way too much. I wonder, how do you mums do it? And as I near the end of my 6 months maternity leave, I hate to admit it, but I’m smiling, relishing my duties as a gynaecologist and a surgeon. To all stay at home mums, i give u, my standing ovation.
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