ME ~ What I Dislike!

As we grow up, we would find out more about ourselves. Throughout the past few months, I guess I know what I dislike:

1) I dislike talking to myself a.k.a. self talk

2) I dislike talking to a wall

3) I dislike talking to an imaginary friend

4) I dislike not getting replies

5) I dislike being neglected

6) I dislike being rejected

7) I dislike being ignored

8) I dislike to be forgotten

9) I dislike the feeling of being unloved

10) I dislike when affections are not returned

11) I dislike myself for having negative feelings over the above ~

An Open Letter To Mr. Wrong By Maya L. Ralston

Dear Mr. Wrong,

I want to thank you for waking me up. After going on so many first dates with men who were trying too hard, who weren’t spiritually grounded, who didn’t have much of a personality, you showed up with your passions, your zest for life, your keen intelligence, your manliness, and your love for God. You awakened me to the exhilaration of being with a man who is not afraid to express his opinions. You seemed to be balancing your home life (great cook, loving dad) with your work life (moving up in your company, saving and planning for your future). You weren’t afraid to express a strong manliness and desire for my womanliness. And that turned me on. You woke me up to the possibility of having found the mature life partner I have been seeking.

But your sexual desire soon took over every conversation. “Hey sexy”. “There is something about you that turns me on”. And those conversations, which soon became quite graphic, took place mostly via text. A grownup man picks up the phone. A grownup man doesn’t only focus on sex, especially as he’s getting to know me. And a grownup man wants to get to know all of me—my heart, my passions, my values, my mind. When a man focuses primarily on sex, I feel objectified. You seemed to respect my wishes to stop sexting and start exploring our whole selves.

Our first date was short and sweet. We met in the park and talked about our lives. We discussed books, our favorite foods, and our children. We connected through our minds and souls, and I liked that. And then the texts began again. At first it was fun and flirty. But then it became graphic and gross. I felt that you were seeing me as a sex object. When I let you know how I felt, you slowed down. I felt respected and heard. And you finally picked up the phone. I loved connecting voice to voice. And then we had our second date.

You drove an hour to meet me in my hometown. You held my hand throughout the evening. You told me you really liked me. We got vulnerable and shared some intimate details about our lives. We seemed to “get” each other in so many ways. We took a walk, and you pulled me into a dark corner, expressing your desire for me to come home with you. I said I couldn’t because I wanted to keep my promise to God, my vow of celibacy. You said you understood. You were cool with that.

You told me you’d call the next day. You didn’t. You texted the following day. And then you slowly began to disappear. Until poof…you were gone.

So, disappearing man, I’m glad I met you and I’m also glad you’re gone now. This was so much easier to deal with after only two dates. At first I was angry. How dare you lie and promise me you’d be honest with your feelings all along so no one gets hurt? When I asked you if everything was okay (because you seemed to be shutting down), you lied and said, “Everything’s fine. Just busy at work.” I’m really glad you lied. Because it showed me your true character.

So I want to thank you again for waking me up—to the importance of staying true to my values and to being my most authentic self in relationships. Because in the future, I will honor my timeline even more. I’ll make sure to pace myself, even when the attraction is strong. If a man pressures me to talk sexy and be sexual before I’m ready, I’ll stand up even stronger for what I believe in. The right man will respect my desire to build a friendship and will respect my promise to God. He will not disappear when I don’t go home with him, when I let him know what my spiritual standards are. The right man will see all of me, not just the sum of my body parts. He will call when he says he will. His words and actions will match. He’ll have a steel core of integrity and a passion for Christ.

So, goodbye my disappearing man. God has a way of sending you the teachers you need over and over again until you’ve learned the lesson you need to learn. I’m happy to say that I’ve graduated. I’m so ready for the right man. Your disappearing helped create the space for a grownup man, my true love partner to show up in my life. And I thank you for that.

- See more at: http://theprayingwoman.com/2014/10/16/an-open-letter-to-mr-wrong/#sthash.AnC7YIrD.dpuf

张惠妹 - 记得 Zhang hui mei - Ji de

词:易家扬 曲:林俊杰
ci : yi jia yang qu : lin jun jie

谁还记得　
shui huan ji de

是谁先说永远的爱我
shi shui xian shuo yong yuan de ai wo

以前的一句话
yi qian de yi ju hua

是我们以后的伤口
shi wo men yi hou de shang kou

过了太久
guo liao tai jiu

没人记得当初那些温柔
mei ren ji de dang chu na xie wen rou

我和你手牵手　
wo he ni shou qian shou

说要一起走到最后
shuo yao yi qi zou dao zui hou

我们都忘了　
wo men du wang liao

这条路走了多久
zhe tiao lu zou liao duo jiu

心中是清楚的　
xin zhong shi qing chu de

有一天　有一天都会停的
you yi tian you yi tian du hui ting de

让时间说真话
rang shi jian shuo zhen hua

虽然我也害怕
sui ran wo ye hai pa

在天黑了以后　
zai tian hei liao yi hou

我们都不知道会不会有遗憾
wo men du bu zhi dao hui bu hui you yi han

谁还记得　
shui huan ji de

是谁先说永远的爱我
shi shui xian shuo yong yuan de ai wo

以前的一句
yi qian de yi ju

是我们以后的伤口
shi wo men yi hou de shang kou

过了太久　
guo liao tai jiu

没人记得当初那些温柔
mei ren ji de dang chu na xie wen rou

我和你手牵手　
wo he ni shou qian shou

说要一起走到最后
shuo yao yi qi zou dao zui hou

我们都累了　
wo men du lei liao

却没办法往回走
que mei ban fa wang hui zou

两颗心都迷惑　
liang ke xin du mi huo

怎么说　怎么说都没有救
zen me shuo zen me shuo du mei you jiu

亲爱的为什么
qin ai de wei shi me

也许你也不懂
ye xu ni ye bu dong

两个相爱的人
liang ge xiang ai de ren

等对方先说找分开的理由
deng dui fang xian shuo zhao fen kai de li you

谁还记得爱情开始变化的时候
shui huan ji de ai qing kai shi bian hua de shi hou

我和你的眼中
wo he ni de yan zhong

看见了不同的天空
kan jian liao bu tong de tian kong

走的太远　
zou de tai yuan

终于走到分岔路的路口
zhong yu zou dao fen cha lu de lu kou

是不是你和我　
shi bu shi ni he wo

要有两个相反的梦
yao you liang ge xiang fan de meng

谁还记得　
shui huan ji de

是谁先说永远的爱我
shi shui xian shuo yong yuan de ai wo

以前的一句话
yi qian de yi ju hua

是我们以后的伤口
shi wo men yi hou de shang kou

过了太久
guo liao tai jiu

没人记得当初那些温柔
mei ren ji de dang chu na xie wen rou

我和你手牵手
wo he ni shou qian shou

说要一起走到最后
shuo yao yi qi zou dao zui hou

我和你手牵手
wo he ni shou qian shou

说要一起走到最后
shuo yao yi qi zou dao zui hou

English Translation Lyrics

Who still remembers, who was the one who said he'll love me forever
A sentence of the past, will become our wound in the future
It was so long ago, no one remembers the gentleness in the past

You and I, hand in hand, we said we'll walk together to the end
We've both forgotten, how long we've walked in this journey
In our hearts it's clear, that one day, one day it'll all end
Let time speak the truth, although I'm afraid too
After the sky darkens, we won't know whether there'll be regrets
Who still remembers, who was the one who said he'll love me forever?

A sentence of the past, will become our wound in the future
It was so long ago, no one remembers the gentleness in the past
You and I, hand in hand, we said we'll walk together to the end
We're both weary, yet we cannot turn back
Both hearts are puzzled, no matter what we say, nothing can be helped

My dear, I ask why, but maybe you don't have an answer either
Two persons in love with each other, waiting for each other to say a reason to break up
Who still remembers, when the love has just begun to change
In our eyes, there're different skies

We've walked too far, eventually reaching a crossroads
Is it that you and I, must have two contrasting dreams
Who still remembers, who was the one who said he'll love me forever

A sentence of the past, will become our wound in the future
It was so long ago, no one remembers the gentleness in the past
You and I, hand in hand, we said we'll walk together to the end

You and I, hand in hand, we said we'll walk together to the end